Tonight, me (23M) and my GF (27F) were texting when she started to say things along the lines of "rememmber me please" "dont ever forget me" and things of similar nature. I asked what the matter was, but got no answer. I then didnt hear from her for over 3 hours. When she came back, she told me she got sad and scared, and i expressed i was to and that "I was so scared, I cant go through that feeling again".

This got her upset due to what I am reffering to, lemme explain.

Early into our relationship, I expressed that one of my tattoos was to remember a past girlfriend (its a rose on my left calf) I had who had taken her own life just over 5 years prior, this girlfriend was a lot of my firsts and was a major part of my life. And while I understand this current girlfriend might not like that and I understand, I was upfront and honest about it. I felt as if I wasn't hiding anything and wasnt trying to disguse the fact. From the moment i said what the the tattoo was for, she instantly began to say "I just thought you only thought of me." "So you're constantly thinking of some other bitch? Wow" and "Well, dont take this the wrong way but I told myself id never date a guy with ink of another bitch". She was borderline punishing me for having a past before her. Later into thr relationship, the day it happened came around and when she asked why I was sad, and i told her, it repeated itself.

So, fast forward to today, I say "I cant go through that again" and she instantly starts accusing me of thinking of this girl 24/7, that she thought it was only her, and starting to basically accuse me of cheating in some weird way. Im stunned at this moment, I'm saying "No no- i was just saying I didnt want to think of you doing the same thing" but she wasnt having it. Eventually, I snapped, i told her that it wasnt fair to not only accuse me of things, but punish me for having a past before I even knew she existed. I told her that it was childish for a near 30 year old woman, who has had a past of her own, to be jealous of someone that I'd been with 5 years ago, and that I only thought of the incident because she had started acting simiarlly and it scared me and how ridiculous she had been and was being about it. That it was unfair to expect me to just forget something like that had ever happened.

We go back and forth, im trying to get through to her, she's just acccusing me and sending broken heart emojis, and eventually she just decides to cut the conversation and go to bed. But I start to say that no, we agreed not to go to sleep angry with one another. And she said "All I want is a goodnight", to which I said "and all I want is a girlfriend who doesnt get jealous of my past". She responded "then find someone else." We go back and forth some more and Eventually, she just unadds me to keep me from talking. So i come here asking if i was doing the most for snapping about the situation and potentially get some advice.