EDIT: I forgot to mention that I notice their messages started from October 20 and so I knew he was deleting messages, which I did get him to confess to, but he said they were just of them trying to make plans to meet up.

occasionally when I get bored I will look at my boyfriends photos because it’s like a change of scenery for me, and he always lets me. This time when I asked, he dodged my question and took his phone away placing it somewhere else which immediately caught my attention. he was asleep and I took his phone and went through his messages because I assumed he was cheating if he hid his phone and I noticed he was messaging his female best friend and they had met up yesterday evening without me knowing. When I brought it to his attention, he swore all they did was get dinner together, but I can’t help but feel betrayed.

BACKSTORY on her, before we dated (it’s been a little over two years) he has known her for 7ish years now (same as us) and she has helped him through a toxic relationship and he admires their friendship. There was a point in time where he told me (when we were just friends) that he was in love with her but he knew they couldn’t be anything more than friends. Fast forward to us dating, when I brought that up, he explained that he couldn’t differentiate the feelings of a deep love for a friend and romantic feelings, and swore nothing had ever happened between them. So I have always been on edge or upset whenever he brings her up or meets up with her.

Fast forward back to today, he explained that he only hid the meet up because he was tired of me getting angry whenever he brought her up or wanted to hang out with her. (They don’t hang out often) he has a past of microcheating/cheating and that’s where my concerns lie when they hang out.

I did break up with him, but he really wants to make it work and I do too, since he didn’t technically cheat.

Would it be wrong of me to have him cut her off completely if he is serious about getting back with me?

tldr; I caught my boyfriend meeting up with a female friend I am not comfortable with and want him to cut her off if he is serious about our relationship.