Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/iuCPizXI1E

Sorry it took time to update, it has been a hectic few days. I didn’t expect this whole situation to blow up like it has. I thought I was just making a decision for my own well-being, but the amount of support and advice I’ve received has been overwhelming.

Thank you to everyone who offered their thoughts, seriously, it’s been helpful in ways I didn’t anticipate.

I told her I can’t go through with the wedding. I explained that the constant financial stress, the guilt, tripping, and the complete lack of boundaries from her family have made it not possible for me to see a healthy future with her.

Her initial reaction was a mix of anger and tears, but when her family found out. They started harassing me with messages, accusing me of abandoning her and claiming I “need to panagutan” or "to be accountable for" her because she was a virgin before we met ahd she helped me a lot.

Their messages quickly escalated into threats, making it clear they were trying to pressure me into staying in the relationship and continuing to support them financially.

On top of that, when I mentioned that I’d been so stressed I was considering getting a vasectomy because I can’t imagine raising children in such a toxic environment, her family’s harassment only intensified.

They’re now demanding I go through with the wedding or pay up.

Thankfully, my parents have been an incredible source of support through all of this.

They’re fully behind my decision to call off the wedding and have even offered to help me handle the harassment legally if needed. I’ve saved all the messages and threats to protect myself in case this goes further.

I also told my fiancée she needs to move out of my place. Now she’s refusing to leave unless I give her six months or a year of living costs and rent upfront.

It feels like she’s just trying to take advantage of me one last time before the relationship is officially over.

This has been one of the most draining experiences of my life, but I’m determined to move forward and protect myself.

Please don't post to other platforms thanks!