Hi all. I (25M) am nine months into a relationship with my girlfriend (24F). It’s the first relationship that’s lasted more than a couple months for either of us. It has been pretty amazing so far. We clicked instantly and have a ton of chemistry.

The problem is that we are both in our final year of grad school and grappling with our career starts. One of the reasons we clicked is that we are both from Florida and want to move back after graduation. The problem is that she is 100% set on moving there and I am open to other places.

Now, I am struggling to find a good job in FL, but have an amazing job offer in Albuquerque. The difference between the NM job and the jobs I’m looking at in FL are like the difference between being a line cook at Waffle House and a sous chef at a Michelin Star restaurant. But neither of us are interested in a true LDR like that would create.

While things are great overall and she seems special, things aren’t perfect. Our big problem is that we are struggling with physical intimacy (we have not had sex yet, but we are both virgins). Also, there is a little tension in our relationship because of her family.

In sum, I want to stay with her, but I’m not convinced we’ll be together by the time we graduate, and it’s hard for me to swallow the idea of making such a huge career sacrifice for that.

Thoughts?

TLDR

I’m in a loving - but not perfect - newish relationship and have to choose between it and my career.