Hi there I'm M33 and my wife (just married just over a month ago) is F31.

My wife is a keen runner and works from home most days. I'm a busy farmer I'm outside everyday working and seasonally work exceptionally long hours at times. Since I've known my partner she has always ran and been part of a club but this year has really stepped it up a notch and gone from 1/2 sessions a week up to 5/6 sessions a week.

It provides her with a social outlet as she gets on well with everyone she runs with and she enjoys socialising with them after a run. She has committed to doing a marathon in April and did one with very little training back in October (the week before we got married).

However....

These people she runs with, she is constantly messaging, she often is late back from a run 30-40-50 mins, and most of them are guys who, being one myself, don't always care whether a pretty lady is married or not.

I was under the impression we would get married and start a family. I was prepared to wait whilst my partner completed her running commitments in completing her 2nd marathon. She has now mentioned she plans to do a further challenge, and my wife wanted to miss my birthday a few weeks ago to go and walk up a mountain with the group as opposed to spend time with me. She spends a lot of time going running and often goes to bed early because she has a run the next morning. But this comes at my expense of any time with my wife.

I feel quite letdown and almost like she wants to spend time elsewhere rather than with me. I support her and her running endeavours but I do expect some time back in to our marriage. I don't know how to broach the subject with her. I want her to carry on but not to the level she's running at currently.

I do feel somewhat guilty and maybe like I'm being unreasonable but then I actually think if I don't say something we will just be passing ships and won't spend any time together. I feel a bit lost with this situation.