I (21M) recently got a new job that’s particularly difficult for people to carry relationships. I dont want to out myself completely but its a job they make a lot of movies about and i travel all the time and live in various places. My ex (22F) and i had been off and on for years at this point but never broke up for more than a week. Honestly the last year has been very good on us and was going well. But theres just certain things that are set as boundaries for one another and ive always respected hers but theres some things that she just refuses to accept for me. I tried to act like it didnt bother me at first but then it got really hard on me and then became hard on her. She will care for me in the most nurse like way yet when it comes to that oneeee thing that i just say “hey im not comfortable with that” she thinks im infringing on her rights as a woman or something or another. This went on for awhile but then there were no recent events and we were happy until one thing finally did me in tbh. And it was pretty simple too she was just texting flirtatious with a dude who happens to be gay and i knew he was gay personally considering i know him but i asked her if she would be okay with me doing the same with another woman whos gay. She went quiet and then started telling me how immature i am and how much insecurity i have built up. And its not that this guy threatens me whatsoever its just not something i want my woman doing regardless of who they are or where they swing. I immediately came to the realization and said “hey listen.. you know what.. you are right its not fair for me to force my boundaries onto you and expect you to color within the lines.” And she proceeded to say “well im glad you see it that way. I know you respect mine and stuff and i try hard to respect yours but i feel like yours are just unjust and ever since you got this new job and have been going abroad doing god knows what it seems like you changed. I think you should leave when your contract is up.” I immediately said “i think that about did it for me. I really cant make this healthy for either of us so ill let it die and we can move on.” And swiftly and somewhat calmly we both separated. Its been a month and everyday has felt horrible. I want to reach out but i dont know which pain is worse? Having to deal with her disrespecting me ignorantly or her absence. Did i mess this up and do i need to reflect on myself and chase her or did i make the right decision for both of us?