Some back story, my gf and I have been together almost 2 years. She's always really struggled with money. She's a hair stylist, but can't ever really pull in enough.

She doesn't have a car. Her mom is paying her rental. She goes out to party at least twice a week. She does coke with her friends every time she goes out, and does it all night. She's been to 4 concerts in the last 3 weeks. She took a trip to Orlando to go to EDC.

For the record, she never buys coke, and only does it on the weekends.

We have an open relationship, we both like seeing other people. A couple months ago she asked about the possibility of doing sex work, and I eventually relented because I thought it would be temporary once she got her life together. Even doing that she still needs help. She's still broke all the time. She needs help with groceries. With cat food.

This weekend, I broke it down for her, that she binges on coke, that money isn't just going to fall from the sky for her, and that she really needs to cut back on the partying to get her life together. She treated it like I was calling her a bad person, and blames everything on bad luck.

Typing this up makes a lot really clear, and there's more I'm not even going to get into. Up until this last month, I was going to try and get her to move in with me.

I'm doing well financially, I could solve all of her problems, but I'm not sure I should. I haven't shared with her how much I've saved.

People with clear heads and more experience, I've invested so much already. How can I make this work?