My girlfriend (22F) doesn’t allow me (28M) to watch porn, and it’s becoming a problem in our relationship. When we first started dating, we agreed that watching porn was the same as cheating. At the time, I went along with it because this is my first relationship, and I thought it made sense. Before we got together, I used to watch a lot, but since then, I’ve stopped completely.

Lately, though, I’ve been struggling with urges to watch it again. I haven’t acted on them, but it’s hard to ignore the thoughts. When I brought this up to her during an argument, she doubled down on the idea that watching porn is cheating and said I shouldn’t ever do it. I love her and don’t want to hurt her, but I’m finding it really hard to manage these feelings. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?