Our friendship started at work. I’m a very quiet person and don’t really talk to anyone. I keep my head down, work and go home. But she kept talking to me and I realized we had a lot in common. So I was open to the idea of being friends. It’s been about two months. In that time we’ve hung out twice both times initiated by me. The second time, completely paid for by me. She’s asked me to just give her weed. She barely ever texts me first. Her position is that she’s in school (taking two college courses) and working full time so she doesn’t have time for anyone right now. However, I am in school full time (taking 4 college courses), studying for a certification, working full time, taking care of my animals, and maintaining my long term relationship. Yet, if she’s going through something and she texts me I respond. I’ve always been that kind of friend who is there when I’m needed. She’s made a point of saying everyone always leaves her and she’s just waiting for me to leave. But it’s hard for me to want to stick around when she hasn’t tried to plan anything, never texts me first or sometimes blatantly ignores my texts (she has read notifications), and when she does text she’s very dry about it and will skip over things I say. I should mention that mostly everyone at work doesn’t like her. I feel very pressured to stick around because we work together, and she feels like everyone always leaves. I also have no idea about this dynamic because she’s closer in age to my mother and she has a child who is closer in age to me.

I need outside perspectives, ideas on how to handle this, am I being manipulated, should this friendship end etc