My girlfriend (22F) and I (25M) have been together for about a year and a half. Our relationship has had many ups and downs, but this past weekend has made me seriously question our future.

It started on Friday night when we went to a bar with her nephew, who is visiting from her home country. While we were there, she said, “I know where you’re looking.” I didn’t respond. I just closed my eyes, feeling frustrated, because I knew she was testing me. After a moment, I stood up, pointed at her, and said, “I don’t like that comment.” Then, I walked out of the bar.

When we got to the car, she sat in the passenger seat, and her nephew was in the back. As we were driving, we stopped at a train track. She kept staring at me, and I could feel it the entire time. It was making me uncomfortable, so I turned to her and said, “Stop looking at me. I’m not feeling okay with it.”

She didn’t stop. She just kept staring, and that’s when I said, “You’re really manipulating me. You need to stop.” I turned to her nephew and said, “I’m sorry,” before continuing. She got mad, saying she wanted to leave the car, but I ignored it and drove us home.

The next day, I planned a trip to an amusement park for all of us. I wanted to lighten the mood and ensure her nephew had a good time. On the surface, everything seemed fine. We laughed, went on rides, and tried to enjoy ourselves, but I could still feel the underlying tension. I was trying to move past it all and focus on the moment, but it wasn’t easy.

That evening, when we got home, we went to bed. I was on my phone, trying to unwind, and she moved closer, cuddling into my chest. She wanted to talk—not about why I was upset, but about other things—as if nothing had happened. I told her I was frustrated because I had planned everything for the weekend and still ended up doing most of the work, like cleaning.

She responded that she does these things on a daily basis, but I felt like it was a weak argument. She doesn’t work much, while I work long hours, from 7:00 AM to 5:30 PM, every weekday. I eventually told her that I didn’t agree with what she had said or done at the bar the night before. She got angry and said she wanted to punch me.

I told her, “Do it, then.” That made her even more upset. She silent-screamed at me in frustration, then put her hands on me, grabbing me roughly for a full minute. Her nails left scratch marks on my neck and shoulder.

Afterward, she grabbed my phone and dropped it on the floor. She then grabbed my neck chain and pulled me toward her, forcing her face against mine by yanking on the chain.

After everything, she got up and started packing her suitcases. She said she wasn’t going on the planned trip to Ibiza with me and my friends next week. She also said she wouldn’t pay for it, even though we had agreed she would cover her share. I felt too drained to argue with her at that point.

The next day, we went to the shopping mall. I kept things polite but distant—I wasn’t in the mood to act like everything was fine. While we were shopping, she mentioned to her nephew that she was still planning to go to Ibiza.

That completely threw me off because it was the opposite of what she had said the night before. I pulled her aside privately and asked, “What is it that you actually want? Are you leaving tomorrow with your nephew to go back to your home country, or are you going to Ibiza? You keep saying two different things.” She didn’t give me a clear answer, and I felt frustrated because it seemed like she was being manipulative or indecisive.

Now, I’m sitting here trying to figure out what to do. I’ve given her chances before, but the cycle of tension, accusations, physical moments, and manipulation keeps happening. I still care about her, but I don’t know if this is something that can change.

If you were in my situation, what would you do? How do you know when it’s time to walk away, or if there’s still something worth saving?