We've dating for almost 2 years. Whenever we're together, we have a wonderful time. We've been on vacations to Europe and the Caribbean, spent a weekend in South Beach, gone for long drives, concerts, etc. etc.. I have a wonderful time everytime we're together and she does too . We both have good jobs, but I make a lot more, so I've been paying for the trips. I don't mind. I've tried to go on vacations by myself and it sucks. She's never asked me for money.

GF (f48) is awful at communicating,. She doesn't respond (or takes hours to respond) to texts, phone calls, etc. I've talked to her about it and she insists that she doesn't need to tell me what she is doing and doesn't understand the problem. I stopped asking her to come over for dinner or other activities because she never responds to my texts asking about weekend plans. It's only when I ask her to concerts, nice events, or suggest an excursion that she will answer pretty quickly. The final straw was last night when she told me she only does things that she wants to do. She seems to not understand the value of just spending time with people. I do have to mention that she ghosts everyone, not just me and she openly admits that she's lost several friends because of this. She ghosted her boss at her last job for 3 days before she bothered to respond.

When I do finally manage to get her to go out, we have such a good time though. We laugh, hold hands and just enjoy each others company. The sex is infrequent but usually amazing. I know this sounds like a bad situation, and I am really tired of it, but I don't know what to do. I keep thinking about breaking-up but I change my mind after a date.

She has some other mental health issues too. She is depressed, and has adult ADHD. Her house is a fucking mess and has trouble just getting her shit together. It took me about 1 1/2 years to get he to see a psychiatrist and she's on medication for her depression and ADHD. I don't think she's on a high enough dose, because, at first, she was doing great, but has since slipped back into being messy and unorganized. She didn't listen to the doctor insisted on taking a smaller dose than the Doctor prescribed.

She rarely says "I love you", yet everything we do when we're together indicates that she does. It's not like she's a catch (neither am I), So, I don't think it's a gold-digger situation.

Would giving her a taste of her own medicine work? Has it ever worked? I know, it probably won't make a difference, but it would make me feel good and, hopefully, make her see what it feels like. to have basic questions go unanswered.