as the title states i f25 started talking to my ex m25 after we broke up. we dated for 4 years and had a rough relationship the last 1.5 years where he started to become verbally and mentally abusive. it got to the point i was being name called and threatened to break up everytime we saw each other. or if i didn’t want to have sex he would stop talking to me and basically guilt me into doing it so he wouldn’t get mad at me. we broke up in september officially and i was doing well not reaching out but one day i got sad and texted him. he responded and pulled me in telling me how sorry he was how sad he was and how he fucked up. i fell for it and we have been talking and have hung out twice. my problem is we are now back in the same cycle where he is mad that i basically am breathing, he’s yelling at me on the phone and mad that i don’t want to hook up even tho im still hesitant to do so. he basically tells me how he won’t change and hates me then a few hours later will basically back track and say he didn’t mean that. how do i go about walking away again or how do i talk to him to try and get him to realize i need him to change?