In a nutshell , we got married about a year ago and now we live together… we use to be in a long distance relationship until right after marriage. We use to see each other every 2-3 months for about 3-5 days (so of course we had a lot of sex ) … and of course she would take take days off and so would I (as many as we could ) . With that said, now we live together and she’s insatiable and I hate it because it dictates her mood. We both have jobs (we’re both in the hospitality industry and work nights )… her mindset is … either she wants to work (she works 12-14 hours a day , management position ) or wants sex or wants to clean …those are her three moods. I hate it because it falls upon me…I have more layers to me. She tells me that sex is her only way to decompress and if she can’t get it , she’ll be in a pissy mood and resent me in the long run. Now me, I have a lot of ways to decompress and hobbies … I run and like to exercise, I’m a audiophile and DJ on the side for fun (I’ll get gigs here there ), I’m an illustrator / painter, I play video games (online and offline) , and also like to go out for a drink/party once a week or every other week. She’s a workaholic, and loves it… she’ll come home from 14 hour shift , and open her laptop and work some more … then she wants sex like if it’s on a pez dispenser and if she doesn’t get it , it’s her pissy mood for the rest of the night . My wife is absolutely hot, and I love her… but fuck, it’s not how I work. You can say I’m more emotional/relaxing and she’s more practical/demanding/. We still have sex 1-2 a week and she says her for her it’s a non existent sex life. Now she’s bringing up kids, and how she wants kids and will be a constant “can you imagine our kids” “let’s have kids “ “our kids will beautiful” yesterday she even refused to take her birth control (we had sex two nights ago ) (she told me she’s been off it for about two weeks since we “don’t really have sex”) and I was like wtf … we can’t have kids now , we’re not super stable , we’re a year in marriage , and it something we said we weren’t into … and now all of the sudden , she wants kids and her libido is through the roof, also , she’s an only child … so if she doesn’t get her way … it’s just a bad time. She’s not a horrible person , she’s amazing … but every day she either talk about work or sex (lack off ) and that’s her now … her whole personality towards me. It’s fucking getting on my nerves and I’m super patient with her… Let me clear I show love in many other spectrums , we don’t have a car now … so I pick her up walking , even though I’ve been home from work … I love cooking for her, we’re watching her favorite series (lost lol ) , and message her throughout the day sweet stuff , I’ll keep the house tidy since she works long hours , do laundry , estay dishes etc … and for all I know it doesn’t matter, she just wants to fuck and that will make her happy. Ugh. I’m desperate. Help.