Hey everyone, I (21f) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (21m) for just under a year, and I’m struggling with trust and my self-esteem. When we first started dating, he told me that he doesn’t watch porn and believes it’s wrong, which I was good with and agreed with. However, early on, he would still spend a lot of time looking at Instagram models that were solely only fans models or just very provocative people, and I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that, since it’s not something I do. I explained that if it was something he needed to do, maybe another relationship would be a better fit for him. But even after that conversation, he continued to look at these models. A situation that was rather hard is when I saw it and he actually tried to lie his way out of the matter :(. Later, I found out he was actually watching porn, which really threw me off. In my previous relationship, I became insecure, but I worked on fixing that and improving my confidence. But now, with my current boyfriend, I feel like the insecurity is back, and it’s affecting me more than I expected. We were very physically intimate in the beginning—like, every day—and he also had pictures and videos of us intimate together. At the time, I didn’t think much of it, but now I’m feeling a bit down about it. I know things have changed a bit—he doesn’t seem to be doing those things anymore—but I still can’t shake this feeling of mistrust. On top of that, he has been hypocritical about some of our boundaries. He’s said one thing, but then done the opposite, which makes me question his sincerity. He’s also lied about some minor things, which adds to my distrust. I know we’re young, but it’s hard to overlook these things when they build up over time. Here’s where I’m struggling: How do I rebuild trust in my relationship after this situation? How do I work on my self-esteem and stop feeling insecure about these things? Has anyone else experienced something similar and found a way to move forward? I do really care about him, and everything else in our relationship is good, which makes me want to make it work. I just want to have a healthy, trusting relationship, and I’m not sure how to get there. Please, no harsh comments—I’m just looking for real advice from people who might have gone through something similar or can offer some guidance. Thank you so much for reading