Last week, I (27M) was enjoying some postcoital cuddling in bed with my girlfriend (34F). I felt like it was a "happy moment" kind of thing.

She made a comment about feeling some insecurity as we had just returned a day or two prior from a trip to NYC. The comment was something along the lines of how she enjoyed a trip to another city (a few months ago, I wasn't with her for this trip) more than this one, because with this trip she was worried about me "checking out" other women.

(Side note of information, my girlfriend RARELY wears make up)

I tried to be reassuring to her. I told her how beautiful I think she is. I also told her how she is so beautiful, and she doesn't even wear makeup. I told her other women have to try to be as beautiful as she is by wearing makeup, where she wakes up every morning beautiful. I then said "if you wore makeup all the time, it wouldn't even be fair to anyone else." This last sentence was supposed to be funny.

She asked what I meant by that last sentence.

I tried to explain it to her by telling her "if you wore makeup all the time, it wouldn't be fair to any other girl. I'd be fighting off their men from trying to hit on you all the time, and I can't fight so it would be all bad for me"

She asked what I meant by "it wouldn't be fair".

I tried telling her that it meant something like "there would be no comparison, it would be a knockout" (knockout as in an easy win) and she would be stealing the the gaze of every other women's men.

In my mind (granted I had taken an edible a couple hours prior) it was a sentence that was supposed to be funny and not over thought about.

But she feels like the last sentence was me telling her she would be more attractive if she wore makeup. And she is extremely hurt by this. She also thinks it meant that she would get hit on if she wore makeup, implying that she isn't worth being hit on without it.

I have tried to reassure her that that is not what I meant at all, but she says if it isn't what I meant then I wouldn't have said that.

To me, that last sentence doesn't mean that at all and it was just supposed to be funny.

Do you think that the statement made implies that? Would you be hurt by that statement?

Edit to add: I do not check out other women in front of her. That would be extremely disrespectful and I'm not one to do that. She said she was worried if she saw me checking people out, and that worry led to an overall anxious feeling