Perfect Relationship Breakup Because Fear of His Family

I (27) have been dating a guy (31) for about a year and a half. we are so compatible in every sense, same sense of humor, same interests, perfect sex, talk all the time... have been able to resolve conflicts in a very healthy and open way. probably the first person i've ever seen myself able to marry. now that we've come up on 1.5 years we felt pressure to define the reslationship (it's been undefined because we both fear commitment and had incredibly busy schedules this past year but we had only been seeing each other the whole time). he has never reallly had a real relationshp despite being 31 and I'm the longest and most serious he's ever been with. his family is bat shit crazy. they want to arrange marry him. his brother is currently going through hell after having dated a girl that paretns don't approve of. i mean... like the mom is actively falling apart, texting her son (the guy i'm seeing) every single day about her break downs, the dad is being insane, they're forcing the whole family to go to family therapy etc. after seeing how his parents' reacted to his brother's gf he is now terrified they will react similarlly to him introducing them to me (he has never introduced a girl to his parents before). he is very close with his family and while he doesn't want to do exactly what they say he also doesn't want to send his parents into a complete spiral in the way his brother currently is. we've been speaking over the course of a month about his fears regarding his family and what we can do. his big fear was that in the short term (2-3 years) we would be fine, but once his job ends and he moves back to the coast his parents live on it'll get complicated. he is afraid of creating stress with his family and doesn't want to waste my time by deicing that only two to 3 years from now. i told him that he could just ask his parents how they feel about it now that way we don't have to wait 2 years to figure it out and that way we have no regrets because we tried everything we could! they are very committed to him marrying within the culture. anyways, last night he finally broke up with me because he doesn't feel right about dating if he can't see a clear picture of marriage, and can't see a clear picture of marriage without knowing his parents approve, and can't know if they approve because of how terrified he is of confronting them. when i brought up again the idea of him speaking to them he was visibly extremely anxious... at this point i felt bad because i know he can do whatever he wants but i guess i am lucky i don't have to deal with this kind of anxiety because i don't nkow what i would do if I were in his shoes. of course i told him that breaking up wasn't what i wanted and that he's an adult with free will that can do what he wants, but he is extremely close with his parents and has few friends so they have always been his primary support system throughout his life. Anyways, we were so in love and I wonder if anyone has ever dealt with this before? have you regretted breaking up with a person that was maybe perfect for you because you were too afraid to make your family uncomfortable?