Hi everyone i hope everyone is having a good night/day so far :)

Okay so I (21f) have been or was dating this sweetheart "Kari" (20m) for about four months now, we met around June maybe a little before that then started liking each other a lot and he had asked me to officially be his girlfriend on the first of August and I said yesss. His parents liked me at first, the dad has a sarcastic nature about him that some people would probably be insulted by, but i seen through it and could tell he is actually a pretty cool guy, and the mom was pretty loud and kind of judgemental but at heart she is a good person, but i notice they put A LOT of stress on their son to have his shit together and become successful. He loves his parents but he doesnt them sometimes, and now im starting to see why. I work for my mother as a videographer and graphic designer so i technically am employed but im more of a freelancer so i get money whenever i get work and i get work whenever my mom needs work done. I also dont have a license because im one of those mfs with driving anxiety so im going to start practicing when spring comes around and get my license around my birthday next year. Kari knew all of this before we took anything serious and told me he doesnt mind, he told me he likes to drive so that would be an advantage for him lol and he understood where i was coming from with my fear of the road, so i appreciated him for that, he even offered to help me drive and i took him up on that offer lol.

His parents didnt care about the driving stuff because they were understanding on that part which I appreciated from them because a lot of older people tend to judge that a lot, but they do have an issue with me “not having a job”. She asked me once in the beginning of Kari and I’s relationship what I did for work and I simply told her I work for my mother with video editing and things of that nature, all she said was “Okay…” then proceeded to talk to Kari, like my answer didn’t satisfy her lol. The mom is the main one with the issues, which really pissed me off because I realized she was being fake with me the entire time. I stayed over their house one time but she made me stay in the guest room, Kari was upset about that and I was too but I told him to just be happy she is letting me stay the night and that I have no problem staying in the guest room. Ever since that night, whenever Kari asks to bring me over she will respond yes at first, then wait until he knows he’s not on the phone with me to change her answer lol on some cowardly shit. I took note of that but didn’t care much so I just kept it in the back of my mind for a later time. I noticed that the mom is dealing with a lot of financial troubles like a lot of people are nowadays, she apparently needs so much help that she makes her 20 yr old son pay bills and rent in the home instead of her boyfriend, which I find a bit odd, maybe that’s just me.

Now onto the main thing I’m starting to get pissed off with is this, kari has been a little behind on his rent because he has his own responsibilities and bills he needs to pay for himself and she doesn’t seem to understand or care about any of that because HER bills and rent aren’t paid and its putting her back as well. Kari has been telling me that she was so stressed that she has been picking arguments with him and even crying because of finances, and I can understand, but this is where I don’t anymore. For the past few weeks his mom starts saying shit like “When is she going to get a job?!” “She doesn’t like you, she is using you for money!” “She is a bad influence, she isn’t good for you!” Like girl wtf are you talking about I wouldn’t have met you if I was using him. And also whenever I offer to pay, Kari literally PUTS MY HAND DOWN AND PAYS HIMSELF, the only time he lets me pay for anything is if we need ID since I’m 21 and even then he doesn’t like it but I tell him I got him lol. Then earlier this morning his father called him to have a discussion about business and finances and he asked about me and asked if I was working and told Kari “I don’t have anything against the girl, she seems sweet, but if she doesn’t get a job anytime soon you might have to make a serious decision.”

When Kari told me all of this on the FaceTime call we had this afternoon I took it all pretty well even though I was sad, but then I felt my sadness transform to anger and just being pissed the fuck off. I’m not dating Kari’s parents, I’m dating Kari.. I’m not fucking Kari’s parents, I’m fucking Kari… so why are they pocket watching me and judging me so harshly just for simply not working a normal 9-5 at the moment I don’t fucking know, especially because I told them I work for my fucking mother. Kari asked me what do I think we should do and I honestly told him we should just be friends if his parents are gonna rush me and my plan like I’m their child. I don’t like the way they’re putting their expectations on me and acting as if im not good enough for their son if I’m not doing what they want me to do, which I am insulted by. How dare you tell your son who to love? Idk, someone talk some sense into me or something...