My boyfriend(M18) and I(F18) just ended our 1 year relationship because he says that he realized that for practically our entire relationship I haven't put in even half the effort he has and that he would ask me for certain things and I wouldn't do them and now he doesn't think he can be a boyfriend again until he gets over how he's felt in the past months

We started dating last year oct and it is both of our first relationships,he comes from a normal family and I come from a really abusive household which I didn't mention to him because I didn't want him to view me differently, l understand how stupid this sounds but I had just moved and the feeling of no one knowing about it after 4 years of being know as the traumatized abused girl felt so refreshing but that all resulted in him not understanding why I did certain things..the lack of my communication skills,not comfortable with physical touch and why I couldn't really make time for him sometimes or plan to go out with him and so on but l have now moved out and I can do everything I couldn't do back at home when I had to take care of and be there for my little siblings 24/7 and didn't really have the opportunity to fix the issue I needed to work on but for the past months I have really been trying but he says he didn't really notice because he was focusing on how before that it was him doing everything

After he brought this all up I opened up to him about everything but he still says that he's not ready to try again at the moment which hurts alot but it is understandable to a certain level but he hasn't really been the best bf for the last months because he decided to pull back to see if maybe l wasn’t putting in effort because he wasn’t giving me space to and I also tried to bring up things that he should change or do which he didn't like reassuring me bc l overthink often or when I told him how I felt like he was pushing me away so it was hard for me to put in effort

He says that if I told him this sooner he would have understood and never pulled back and have all the thoughts and uncertainty he’s had in the past months.

We kind of rushed into dating so we didn't really have a good foundation (we only talked for 3 weeks)and now we are turning into adults so l think we both lacked maturity and didn't really know what to do since it was both of our first times. personally have really grown over these months being alone in a different country and did alot of self reflection,l recognize my weakness and where I need to do better and wouldn't do any of the things I used to do and have also significantly improved my communication skills and I think we can learn and grow together from our mistakes and I showed him that i'm willing to try but he's unsure about everything and why I never told him anything

he says he wants to be with me and try making it work but also that he needs space and time to try to get over this and can't go back to talking to me every day and therefore can't just get back together with me but he says that he wants to start again from scratch as friends and see how it goes.. really do love him and want to make it work but im unsure about this whole friendship thing because yes it could lead us to get back together but what if maybe we need to grow as people apart THEN try again? What would be the best way to properly rebuild our relationship?