We have been dating from past 5 years and the first year was good. It was the honeymoon phase. Soon fights started and we would fight like 10 days out of 30 days on average and we couldn't meet at all though we lived 15 min away from eachother, her parents were very strict and hated me and always tracked her phone, read our chats and not used to let her go anywhere.

Then I joined a college and after my first year I waited her to join mine but she couldn't because of her parents. Meanwhile I left my friend group because I used to feel left out and they used to go out without calling me and stuff. Soon I got close to 2 of my senior girls along with my close friend of that time and we formed a group which my girlfriend never liked. Honestly I was too immature and selfish so I used to not care about how bad she felt. We went out twice and also to a pub with that group and other girls came too. Then I started telling them that I can't hangout with you guys situation between me and my gf hasn't been so good since we started hanging out and few months later I left them as they also slowly started avoiding me and then I felt guilty for doing that with my girlfriend and I found another guy friend group who I love them even now.

Now the catch is that this group was a bit edgy and the back benchers, they used to drink, smoke and smoke weed as well and soon I got into those stuff. By now our frequency of fights became almost 20 days a month she didn't like me having bad influence and stuff.

When we fight we fight so bad we say very hurtful things to eachother. After 3-4 days of fight suddenly we become very affectionate and loving, and in that stage we become too affectionate etc. I go to her college to pick her up and take her out to a cafe or a hotel and all we leave her phone in college since her parents track it and frequently call her as they know about us. And when we are together I can say that we have the best time together. I LOVE SPENDING TIME WITH HER. I used to travel 45 min to her college under hot sun in my bike just to sit with her for 45 min in a college canteen. Not even expecting a kiss.

Fast forward to now a lot of messy things happened, I fought with her dad physically, went to jail because of my drug addiction. I came out of it and became sincere with my job while she is about to graduate. Now the frequency of fights became 25 days out of a month. She fights everyday and from past 2 and half years 80% of her fights are about the time I had a group with girls. Literally that and 20% of the time she calls me an addict and I won't have a life and I will be homeless drug addict and stuff. Now it has become too much for me I feel like leaving her but if we talk for 1 hour we melt down and I love her soo much again.

I feel like our relationship seems toxic but I love her so much and she can't leave me too. I want to be with her, I tell her not to fight bringing up the past I beg her but she keeps doing it. I need an advice on how to control these fights. Is this thing common in few relationship at least? And will we last forever? Are we even compatible? Please help me get free from this entanglement.