So for context, I have always struggled to meet someone who I have truly connected with, even now at the age of 37.

I’m a single Dad. I was with the boys Mum for 3 yrs but it was purely circumstantial as she fell pregnant way too early.

Anyway, since I split with her nearly 8 years ago, and all my life really, I have always found it hard to truly connect with anyone and have that feeling like ‘wow, this one is really special!’…until now.

I matched with this girl recently online and instant vibe, instant connection. Even on messages and phone calls. Then we met and it was just as good. Literally matched energy perfectly, same sense of humour, same sort of outlook on life. Just seemed to click and felt so natural instantly. Anyway, it has been quite full on for the last six weeks, and I know that’s not long but it has felt so natural to be that way, and we both agreed it had.

Anyway, yesterday she said to me that she wants to slow things down a bit as she doesn’t want to get to a point where she is overwhelmed and writes it off as she does want it to work, she said she feels lucky to of met me, she says I’m lovely, it’s so good and I’m everything she wants so just wants to make sure it works out.

Now I’m a chronic over thinker and instead of listening to the bits where she said she wants it to work out and has done this before it fucks up and all the encouraging things she says she feels, I am taking this as her ‘softening me up’ to end it or is just laying the foundations for it to come to and end.

Look, I’m old enough to understand these things don’t always work out but considering the connection we agree we have, and the fact that we’ve both said we feel we’ve got some real potential, I’d be quite gutted if this one slipped away because we didn’t tackle it right initially. It’s only been like 6 weeks, so I know not long but long enough to feel there’s something here possibly!

So, in your experience, or opinion…do you think this is salvageable and she’s being sensible to take the right steps or do you think I need to brace myself for some bad news?

If it is salvageable, what’s my next play? How do I tackle this?

Cheers!