My girlfriend (22f) and I (27m) have been seeing eachother for close to two years now. Since about 2 months in she snaps at me over nothing, or small insignificant things. Like when we cook if I do something differently from how she envisioned it- or if we're playing a game and things aren't going her way. She will snap at me and it makes me feel very small.

Initially I ignored it- my friend's wife does the same thing and he's very indifferent to it and that's the tip he gave me. However over the past year it's really been getting to me. It will upset me, and then she will be upset or mad that I'm upset because she has snapped at me. This BARELY worked for me.

I've brought it up multiple times over our relationship, but unless it's in the moment she will seem to forget it's even happened. And when it's brought up in the moment it turns into an argument. Nothing has changed.

Its starting to make me very unhappy, and I am avoiding spending time with her because I feel like I'm walking on eggshells the entire time.

Does this behaviour go away with time? Is it something we can work to change? How does it begins to get addressed to change? It's my first relationship and I do love her. But I'm really unhappy.

EDIT: I made the decision to leave her. We just ended things. It feels weird labelling it abuse but I think I need to call it what it is.