Okay, context time. Her and I have been together for almost 2 years now and about half-way into the relationship she moved 2 hours north of where we lived to her parents for financial support so she can finish grad school. Since moving in with her parents sex has obviously been a little weird but when she comes to visit me sex also started to feel weird and less frequent.

Nowadays we maybe see each other like a handful of times a month. Our schedules are very misaligned.

She told she does not have sex trauma but she will randomly cry sometimes during sex. I've always been supportive and made sure to console her in those situations. We have a very strong relationship and can be very transparent with each other. Our only issue is that she does not find sex with men interesting in most cases. She has told me she sometimes closes her eyes to imagine a woman.

It has effected my own self-esteem but it's been an issue for so long now that I've come to expect no intimacy despite being someone who likes being intimate. Over time she came to realize it might be that she is actually lesbian and not bi-sexual.

Being so busy with school and work she is unable to figure it out in her head and with her therapist. I've been very patient about it and I'll tell her how it makes me feel. She feels a lot of guilt but we are simply having 0 sex despite my attempts to set a mood.

The issue now is that she and I plan to move in together come July 2025. She graduates and my lease ends. Everything is great and we deeply love each other. I'm just truly afraid she is actually full-blown gay and I'm better off finding someone that wants to be intimate with me, a man. She doesn't know if it's a phase, workload stress, or her medication. It seems as though she would be happier with a woman but she tells me she has closeted homophobia and even if we did break up, she would likely find another man. She has dated a woman but told me she missed penis.

I want to be very supportive of her if that's the case but I realize that I will have to move on because intimacy is something I want in a relationship.

I feel like the longer I wait for her to tell me the answer, the harder it will be for us to figure out the next chapter of our life. I just don't really have someone to talk about this with and I guess I'm afraid of the answer. But I'm here now for some support and maybe an answer.