Greetings, fellow redditors. I am a long-time lurker but a first-time poster on this sub.

Recently, something has been happening to me that is scaring me more than it should. And I don't know what to do about it.

This is a genuine cry for help, not a show-off post, so please don't judge me.

To make things easier for myself, and out of gratitude for anyone who's willing to suggest me something, I'll just list down everything that I think is important to mention.

1. I met this girl a few months ago. She set her eyes on me and began trying to get in touch with me in all sorts of ways.
2. She kept going strong for a month, texting me almost every day even when I wouldn't reply to her at times.
3. After the first month, I felt bad for acting like an a-hole and decided to see what her deal was. We started talking and almost immediately she began sending flirtatious messages (mind you, I am an ugly bastard with no career prospects, no money, and certainly no charm as a man. Basically, a nobody).
4. By the end of the second month, things were seemingly progressing smoothly. She'd text me "I miss you", "when can we meet", "I wanna hear your voice", etc. And I being the attention-starved guy that I am liked it, as any average guy would.
5. But this is when she casually dropped a few bombs:

• TWICE she went radio silent for an entire day without any notification. And just when I thought things were over, she'd reappear at EOD as if nothing had happened.
• She once made casual remarks that "she'll ruin me" and "make me cry", which I didn't understand back then.
• She also once playfully threatened to temporarily disappear so as to signify her "absence" in my life, which I requested her to not do. She then replies, "Pleading already?"
• She also acknowledged the fact that "I can not stop" now that I am used to her flirts and casual love-bombing. So she knows she almost has a grip on me.

1. In general, she is an objectively sweet, beautiful, charming and witty girl who's too good with her words. At times I'm in awe of how she knows what to say, when to say, and how to describe things in a beautiful manner.
2. I talked about her to a few friends of mine - both male and female - and they all advised me against being with her. They said she's, "using me", "playing with me", "manipulating me", "using me as a backup", etc. One friend went so far as to get on a video call and force me to block her on social media.
3. All this has now filled my mind with a lot of doubts, regrets and fears.
4. I don't take her words at face value anymore, always second-guess whatever she says, read between the lines, and overthink like a pro.
5. She's also someone leagues above me in terms of money, status, and looks. So I'm always doubtful about why she'd even want to talk to me, let alone act affectionately towards me.
6. I'm scared that the day I confess to her, she'll use it against me. I'll end up digging my own grave and she'll disappear like a B-52 bomber after dropping bombs on me.
7. But on the other hand, I'm also not so sure of myself. I know I have trust issues, body dysphoria, inferiority-complex, no self-love, and I'm overly sensitive to what people say and do to me. So part of me wants to believe that things have always been fine between us, and it is my overthinking that has ruined my perception.

I know hurt is coming my way, but I don't want to feel it. I want to live a simple life and enjoy even simpler pleasures. That is why, guys, please help a brother out. Help me keep my mind sane.

I'll forever be grateful for any and all advice you guys give me.