We have known each other for more than ten years now, and we are very proud of that. We are very close. This relationship seems to make us struggle romantically on each side (I made a post about this). I think that we are too emotionally invested into each other, but romantically unfulfilled as it's friendship. I feel like she takes me for a substitute boyfriend, she hugs me very deeply, sticks to me walking on the street, sometimes holds my arm... It happens that her behaviour "switches", during some time it was "normal" and then she turned extra affectionate, makes those moves, sends hearts everywhere... And for the last weeks she turned very affectionate. She told me for the first time that she makes herself beautiful for me and she has never dressed as fancy as she does for example.

So I asked people I trust and strangers on Reddit about it and all seemed to agree that she is trying to flirt, she may be interested in more. People think we are a couple. I am not sure to be interested but I wanted to give it a try. So I started to reciprocicate, I asked her if I could hold her arm, she accepted but then she seemed tensed and awkward so I stopped. Same when I hugged her and told her that I liked her really much or when I made myself beautiful for her. I felt like she was not interested so I stopped trying.

So I was satisfied to have an aswer that she is not interested in more. But her behaviour still is very affectionate like before, even if I hold her back. So I am lost and I have the impression that it is unhealthy.

She often complains that nothing happens romantically and physically for her. During New Years Eve, we made a funny bet that this year we were gonna have some action, and while I did a few weeks after, she haven't yet. Last time she complained about this and I told her that she should go on any dating app, and she could have some action even being selective. But I guess she is not even trying. Same for relationships, she complains that she doesn't want to settle just for the sake of it, that she hasn't found the good one, but she is not even trying to meet and seduce guys so there is no chance. It's been a very long time since her last relationship. Two months ago, she told me proudly that her psychologist said that she was "healthy" and ready for relationships and dating, so I thought she would have things moving for her but no.

I would like your help because this situation starts to affect me negatively. I really don't know where I stand. I feel anxious when I meet her, because I feel awkward around her and I am afraid of how she would react to anything I do or say, as I don't want anyone to be embarrassed. How do I understand the situation? How can we be comfortable around each other again? Thank you for your advices.