5 years of relationship. We’ve had our on and offs, considering that in the past he lied to me and I forgave him. Also, at first I wasn’t noticing how low effort he was putting in the relationship but I am honestly realising now after all these years. He hasn’t done anything for me spontaneously, NEVER bought me flowers and has never organized a date night for us. The only thing he wants to do is sleeping and playing video games.

Our sex life also has decreased, mainly because I don’t feel him anymore as before. I don’t feel having sex with him is satisfactory anymore, because I don’t feel that connection due to his behaviour.

I’ve talked to him and at first he said that I am materialistic (even if I said to him I don’t want to go to a fancy restaurant, that McDonald’s would be ok but that I would appreciate the fact that he wants to spend time with me like this, or maybe giving me a single peony which is my favorite flower, not even asking for a bouquet). So the thing that bothers me is that he know that these things would make me happy and he just ignores me. And it’s not money problem considering that he earns good and almost twice as me.

I’m tired of being the only one in the relationship because I feel so. I really feel I am lonely. I’ve always made little meaningful gifts for him, always made whatever he wanted to eat (we don’t even live together for the moment because I stay with my ill mother).

We’ve talked about this various times but he just doesn’t change and do a single thing for me. I know that it’s too late to bring this up, but how can he sleep so peacefully at night knowing that our relationship is being destroyed ? Also, I have the feeling that if he does something it would be forced… which probably is true.

What would you guys do in my situation?