Hello, I believe it's not what you say, it's how you say it. There are a few issues I'm having with my partner, and I would like help on exactly how to bring up these issues and what to say. Or are these behaviors I need to accept and figure out ways on my end to get over them? She has brought up behaviors on my end recently that I am willing to work on/change. Thank you so much.

1- overall cleanliness - we're moving in together soon, and currently her car/house is constantly a wreck (she also has a 2 year old). how do I bring this up to avoid issues when we move in together.

2- extremely loud burping - she only does this privately, but around me. it's extremely loud and really bothers me/turns me off

3- excuses - sometimes if stuff doesn't get done, there's no accountability on her end, the excuse is that she has kids and doesn't have time. but it bothers me.