Early in october, my bf (29) and I (29) ran into a problem where he had a folder up in his laptop of some girls nudes.

I freaked a little; thinking he was hoarding nudes from girls. He said it was only that girl and it was an onlyfans girl. After some pressing, turns out it was some girl from his college. I was even more hurt by the personal factor.

We have been together around 5 months, him and I have a great sex life, we are compatible kink wise, we watch porn together, and when I do see him we have sex 2-3x. But when this happened, I got very anxious as I’ve been cheated on before. I was devastated he would keep OF photos when I told him early on in dating I don’t like when men pay for OF. He stressed that he would never cheat on me, talk to a girl, and would never keep pics again like that or buy OF again. He clearly felt very bad and I think I trust him to not do that again. But I still have very bad self esteem and anxiety due to what happened.

I told him if he wants nudes, he can always ask for them from me. He said he doesn’t want to ask, just wants to receive them from me. I said okay, so I started doing that. Sending sexy photos. But his replies are always so dry. Just thank you baby, you’re my slut. Nothing else - no engagement in sexting. :( I told him his replies are kind of dry and a bit of a turn off and make it hard for me to want to send them.

Last night I sent more pics and he liked them, said thank you. But I had to ask if they were sexy and he said yes, but not dirty enough. I asked what he meant by that and he said I want dirty talk and you playing with your pussy.

I sent over a video with me playing with my pussy but no dirty talk as I’m not confident yet. I sent that at 10pm, i presume he fell asleep and he woke up and said “thank you baby. want to come over at 4 today?”

I feel floored. Especially when thinking about months ago when we first started dating, all I did was sending him a titty pic after our first time fucking, and he sent me like 5 very excited texts in reply. I feel so insecure. I feel like he’s not excited by my pics at all and he prefers porn over my pics. In person, he acts like he loves our sex, but all I can think about how is he prefers to look at other women. Maybe my body doesn’t photograph well. Maybe I’m not exciting because i’m no longer new.

I have no idea what to say or do anymore. I’ve told him his replies are dry. Even outside of sexting.

I told him i’m insecure sending pics and videos. I feel like never doing it again. I feel crazy. Here’s a man who has a girl willing to do anything sexual and send anything anytime and I feel so taken for granted.

Is texting the end all be all to a relationship if they are dry? Does this truly mean a man doesn’t like you that much or are some men just that dry?