I currently live at home. My mom and I have always had a difficult relationship. She is a very emotional person and will very often say hurtful things in the moment when she is upset or does not get her way. She excuses this by telling me it is just the way that she talks and I shouldn’t take offense to it because it isn’t personal. She relies on me heavily for emotional support and I have been trying to step back from that lately because it has been feeling suffocating at times and I want to become more independent.

Yesterday I went to stay at my boyfriend house because a shop that I liked was offering discount mediumship readings for Halloween and I went to get one done. My mom is extremely skeptical and I knew she would ask about it so I told her I would tell her about the reading when I got back from work today. This week my car also broke down so I was going to use his car to drive to work the next day. I went to go pick up my work clothes this morning before work because I forgot them and my mom was bombarding me with questions about what the medium said yesterday. I told her I basically have 10 mins to just get my work clothes change and then go. I reiterated that I’d talk to her more in depth tonight because I’m rushing and am not focused on our conversation right now. While I went to quickly go put on some mascara she told me I needed to tell her about the reading right now because I’ve been holding out on telling her since she asked last night. I again told her I don’t have time I’ll stop by tonight and tell her. She completely blew up and told me “wow you’re such a fucking bitch sometimes did you know that? I don’t even want to know anymore don’t come home tonight.” I just told her I’m glad to see we are taking it to that level and she stormed out of the bathroom. I went back downstairs to put a lid on my cup of coffee and she was going on and on about how she’s does so much for me and I can’t even give her the time of day. That I’m always take take taking from everyone but I don’t give people the same courtesy they give me. I just stayed silent because I was in the verge of tears and didn’t want to talk to her. She told me I have enough time to make coffee I have enough time to sit down and have an actual conversation with her. I just told her I had to leave and that I love her and she told me to go fuck myself. I silenced her notifications for a couple hours because I knew she’d try to text me to apologize and she did. She said she was sorry I took offense to what she said and she didn’t mean it and should’ve used other words she’s just upset. I really don’t know what to do now though. I don’t want to talk to her right now because I’m upset about this morning but I know if I don’t go and tell her about the reading tonight it will blow up again when I get home from staying at my bfs for the weekend. Any advice appreciated.