I (F22) have a friend (M21) from another country, who I met almost 2.5 years ago. We still talk often, at least once a week, although we did have some phases during which we weren’t in contact for a month or two.

He got a girlfriend at some point in time and in early May, he told me they had broken up.

Occasionally, she would open my messages and send me selfies from his phone. If I remember correctly, she also did that during their relationship, but it continued just as regularly after the breakup.

A month ago, she sent me a selfie from his bed and in his (shirtless) arms, with him sleeping (I think). This weirded me out so much I simply didn’t reply and stopped reaching out to him.

When he asked me what was wrong, I told him it was because of the picture. He said he didn’t know why she did that, she sent the picture to everyone and he already guessed that it was the reason for me being so quiet.

Now it happened again. Not a shirtless picture, just a regular selfie of her.

I am very uncomfortable having my messages opened my a stranger without my knowledge and receiving selfies of his ex as an indication that she is on his phone opening his messages.

Does anyone have a clue why she does that and how I can handle that situation?

TL;DR: friend‘s ex sometimes opens his messages and sends selfies from his phone. It makes me uncomfortable. How can I handle that situation?

UPDATE: Sent him a message explaining that I don’t think we should talk to each other anymore because of what I have written about and that I don’t want to be a part of her childish games. He read it 10 minutes ago but hasn’t replied. Guess that’s it with our friendship.