I’ve been with my current gf for about 8 months. Our relationship is unique in that it’s the first long-term relationship either of us have been in. We are also both virgins.

The good: Our connection has been amazing from the start. It’s felt like something out of a romance novel. We just have a ton of chemistry and get along super well. We both love each other.

The bad: We are struggling in the bedroom. For the first 6 months, we steadily progressed our physical intimacy, going as far as oral sex. We have tried having sex twice, but neither time was successful. The first time I couldn’t get hard, the second we just couldn’t communicate well. The second time was about two months ago and we have not seen each other naked since.

The problem is that I do not want to have sex. I have some libido, but not much. I’m insecure about my body and have struggled to get over that. She has said she really wants to have sex though. She told me she is down to do it anytime. She’s been patient with me, but I know she wants to have a sex life and I’m not providing it.

As of now, I’m planning on breaking up if we have not had sex (or at least come close) by Thanksgiving. We were planning on meeting each other’s families around Christmas and I do not think we should do that if we know our relationship isn’t going to last.

I’d appreciate thoughts and advice, especially from those who have been in a similar situation.