My bf of 4 years and I got into an argument on Sunday night where I ended up leaving the house to go to my parents to calm down. He said some pretty hateful things to me like fuck you and other things along those lines and to leave him alone so I left the house altogether. Aside from briefly asking him if we were broken up Monday evening (since the last thing he said was fuck you), we have not spoken at all since I left the house. The fact that I have been gone for days and he has not even attempted to ask when I'm coming home seems to be pretty clear he doesn't care to resolve the issue/for me to come home at all. The fight we had blew up excessively after I was expressing my concern to him that I could have offended his mom by over sleeping and not telling her goodbye before she left after staying with us for the weekend. He got really angry and said if it's not a problem directly relating to him I need to deal with it on my own, so I got REALLY bothered by that. I tried to clarify what he meant by that, if he's not going to be there for me at all if he's not part of it or what. Made the example I just lost my job so do I need to deal with that stress alone. He was being pretty adamant he doesn't want to be there for anything that isn't a "couple" issue. I told him if I need someone I feel like my partner should be willing to be there to ensure i feel supported,not dismissed and that just made him flip out. Saying I'm too much and the worst relationship he's been in, too immature, cursing me out. So I left. My dad has been my only input from a male perspective and he is adamant even before he and my mom were married he couldn't have let her leave the house upset for days and not reached out to her, even if he was angry. Should this be taken as a sign to cut ties? I want to give him benefit of the doubt that maybe he's just trying to give me space but if he's able to say all those horrible things and expects me to just get over it and show back up without him saying a single word about it, isn't that kinda fucked? My intention isn't to manipulate him into feeling bad but the fact that I've been gone for days when I've never left from a fight before in 4 years and that doesn't scare the shit out of him seems so off to me.