i like to consider we're close, but i just realized though we love to talk to each other about everything, we don't often talk about our feelings. I'm an only child, and I'm also really close with my mom so i guess she has always been the one i go to for emotional support.

anyways, when i realized that my father might be a hoarder, i find myself really confused on how to even talk to him about it. i don't think he's familiar with the therapy terms, but even then, i just feel really awkward imagining explaining that it's a mental disorder, just like addiction and eating disorder. that it stems from trauma, growing up poor (which he experienced, before having some amount of wealth as a middle aged man). I'm afraid I'll be impatient or worded it wrong.

a background to the impatience is because of the nature of our relationship. he's very respectful with his words once he realized i can bite back and make him eat his own logic, but there was a time where he was acting like he's the smartest man in the world talking to a stupid child, he raised me to be all logical, clear and concise in my approach to everything. for a while it was as if me and my mom were his employees. in middle school i caught up and pulled the rug under him every chance i got and he's been careful.

anyways, this 'revenge' attitude sometimes got the best of me, i always remind him of the time he expects excellence and rationality from me, ridiculed me of crying, and i throw it back to him everytime he's sulking or being irrational about something.

BUT as a grown woman i realized that this hoarding thing is very emotional, there's really no other way than to approach this emotionally. I'm just..... really confused..........

also he's really not that bad, obv i only included the parts relevant to the situation i need help with in this subreddit, so i purposefully left out irrelevant stuff even though they're very positive. thanks for any kind of response!