We are a couple for 5 years now, he has ! NEVER bought me something, not even a chocolate just to say “hey I was thinking about you”. In 5 years we have never go on a date, only two times for my birthday and he also felt kinda forced. And the first time we went to a certain restaurant for my bday was because he had a huge discount to spend there.

For Valentine’s Day same thing, never gave me a gift. And I will never forget about one time we passed by a flower shop (on vday) and he entered. I was happy because I thought he would buy me flowers, instead he bought his mom red roses, for valentines. You can imagine my shock and disappointment.

These are some few insights about our love&date life. So after 5 years I exploded and couldn’t handle this anymore, especially because I’ve always done things for him (I love cooking so I always do his favorite dishes when he wants, I’ve always bought him something meaningful to him even when there weren’t special occasions). So I said it to him that this thing is slowly killing our relationship because I feel “forgotten” and I would love to receive something from him just to feel loved for once.

When I said this, he replied with “you are being very materialistic”. But I guess buying flowers for his mom ON VALENTINE’S DAY and an expensive dress for his ex when they were together is not considered materialistic to him. Buying a cheap 3$ box of chocolate for me just to make my day would be very materialistic.

It’s not even a financial problem for him because he earns more than an average person, his salary is almost double as mine.

So, months have passed since I pointed it out to him, but he hasn’t done anything.

I also hinted to him what I would like, saying “hey I was at that perfume shop yesterday and they had this perfume that smells really good, it wasn’t even expensive”. Notice how I said “it wasn’t expensive”, maybe he would think of buying it for me as a surprise. The answer was “what do you need that perfume for, not worth it”

I’ve also said to him what kind of flowers I love, he just ignores me everytime.

After talking about it, he still ignores me and does nothing about it.

I really need an advice here.