I could use some outside perspective. My wife and I have been married for 6 years, and we have a 5-year-old daughter who is increasingly becoming the main reason I stay. Our daughter had a rough start, needing multiple heart surgeries since birth. For better perspective, we couldn't bring her home from the hospital until she was 6 months old. However, she’s now thriving! Every day she comes home excited to see me and share her day. Being around her is the highlight of my day, and it made me realize that our home and our daughter are the two main reasons I feel compelled to stay married.

Having a transient childhood as a military brat took its toll. Moving around a lot during middle and high school made me value stability as an adult. Fast forward to today, we have a beautiful home and I make roughly $160K, (not bragging) my wife when she was working, made around $100K.

Now her parents are paying for her college courses, making me the sole provider by default.

While we don’t get along well and share very little in c.common, we now argue almost daily over minor things. We rarely have sex, maybe once or twice a month. During our relationship, I’ve been physically abused and had to call the police more than once. While I acknowledge my own issues—suffering from ADHD and depression while seeking treatment—I can't imagine laying my hands on another person.

Regardless, fast forward a year and I’m falling more into despair. She doesn’t ask me about my day or how I’m feeling, which makes me feel non-existent. I try to take on more responsibilities at work, and she doesn't seem to care. . Lately, while I work from home, she goes into our bedroom and sleeps. I try to pitch in around the home when I’m not traveling for work, which is about 25% of the time, but it doesn't appear I'm doing enough.

TL;DR: My wife decided to be a full-time student. Her parents are paying for her school, and it's affecting our marriage.