I (M20) have a girlfriend (F21). I love her more than anyone. I want to be with her.

The problem is that she sees insults everywhere, starts fights out of nowhere, never admits her mistakes, speaks to me very rudely, does not do what I ask her to do, accuses me of things I did not do.

She always reproaches me for something. She finds a reason, I correct it, she finds another and so on.

It all gets worse and worse with each month

She has a lot of trauma from her childhood. I want her to see a therapist. I am ready to give her money or go with her, but she always refuses and says "go if you need to, I don’t need it. you not a doctor to say that I have mental health problems” despite the fact that she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and was prescribed a therapy.

I love her very much, but it hurts me a lot to be in this relationship. Lately I have been thinking about breaking up.

I want to talk to her about it, but I'm afraid because I already know in advance how it will end:

1. Either she will start crying, insulting herself, saying that she wants to die and will try to go for a walk in the middle of the night, saying that she does not want to see me.

2. Or she will say that I am to blame for everything and that I am making things even worse for her than she is for me.

What is the solution? I don’t want to break up with her, I love her very much and I am worried about what will happen to her after the breakup - she has a very bad family that has ruined her mental health, I don't want her to go back there. She also has suicidal thoughts.

We also have a cat, which she will definitely want to take after the breakup, but I don't want to give her the cat. Firstly, I love him too, secondly, I am not sure that he will be safe with her.