I (F23) got into a disagreement with my partner (M25). I unintentionally hurt his feelings when I said that I held the relationship, financially. The week before, He shared some vulnerabilities about how he felt bad for not contributing financially.

I didn't really care because he's been building his business and I'm in a place where I can spend some cash. However, he always asked for too much...I'm happy to pay but he would use my money like it was nothing. The best way I can explain it is when a guest comes to your house, and they immediately go to your cupboards and just help themselves to anything before you even say something.

It always bugged me but I didn't know how to say so because I didn't want to hurt him. Anyways he got very upset at what I said and immediately concluded that I keep my money. He was better without it. Since then he hasn't said a word to me about anything relating to us but is answering texts relating to other stuff. I shared my feelings and he completely ignored me. I know he's available but when i asked when to see him he said he didn't know when he could. I then asked if he wanted to see me and in the most uninterested tone said meh he wasn't complaining.

I love him but I'm completely obliterated on the inside. I've cried for the past 3 days straight. I want to run to him so badly to beg him to come back to me but I've realised that he has demons so bad he won't see past this. He doesn't have anyone close to him because he pushes them all away. He says he loves me but idk if this is love. Our whole relationship has felt like he's set up traps and tests that I was destined to fail or fall into.

How do I speak to my partner who is stone walling me?