Just a warning.. I am aware of how messy this situation is. I (23F) feel like my FWB (40M) is showing signs of deeper attachment. Backstory from me- I’ve been in 2 serious relationships over the past five years. This is my 2nd “FWB” arrangement, as the first one got too attached. I’m a romantic at heart but have been clear about what I want to both of these men. I want to have my fun and experience new things before I settle because I know with my heart, It won’t be too long.

I work with my current FWB. We agreed to keep things casual and just have fun. We also both agreed we only like to sleep with one person at a time to keep things clean/ less complicated. He said himself he has commitment issues and I made it clear I’m not trying to fall for anyone right now. Yes, there’s a significant age gap, but I can’t help being attracted to it. It helps the idea of FWB for me knowing the fact that he has a whole life built already ( teen children, ex wives, a home etc.). Whereas I am financially on my own, in an apartment with a cat lol. Backstory on him- He’s a known previous player, a natural flirt, and extremely attractive for his age.. I did assume this would be strictly physical.

However, we’ve started spending the night together every other day since he lives far away. Recently, he expressed that he wants me around all the time. One night, after a long day, we had plans for me to come over.. We know what that means.. except after getting there, he expressed he was really tired and I told him I was too and let’s try in the morning. Didn’t happen. No bad vibes, he was just happy I was there and didn’t hint anything about sex.

He often brings me coffee in bed, makes breakfast, and buys me food whenever he can because I’m trying to gain weight. He even offered to not flirt with other woman if it would make me feel less attracted to him.. that’s a lot. It’s hard to ignore these signs and keep things strictly physical. I know the best way to get clarity is to ask him directly, but I’m curious if others think this behavior goes beyond a typical FWB relationship?