For context, we have been dating for roughly 9 months, and in what i believe to be a rushed relationship we quickly began spending almost all of our time together. The rush has panned out, and things have generally been great. But I've been having some issues with how she's been lately, and I'm admittedly not fantastic at communicating about them. I think my feelings are valid, and I've been talking to my therapist about this extensively (she agrees with my assesment of gf's behavior, and my need for conmunication skills) and as of this week i reasoned that I wanted to break up with her, and take some much needed time to work on myself. I went into the conversation open to talking things out, but ultimately i wasn't sure that i would want to work the problems out.

When I first asked her for some space to organize my thoughts, she was understandably blindsided, and wanting to dig into why. I explained that I was having issues with our relationship and my responses/lack thereof to said issues, and eventually that I was having doubts about our relationship period. We ended up talking through a lot of specific issues, coming from myself and her, which were mostly resolved, but I can't help but feel like she was just saying some of these things to stave off me breaking up with her.

For example, she never learned to drive due to mental health problems and a lack of parental support growing up, which is becoming a burden for me. On hearing this, she told me that she'd been warming up to the idea of driving, but hadn't said anything yet. After our talk she drove around her neighborhood for a half hour. I want to give her the benefit, and i want to help her, but how much of that will came from despiration?

I told her that I didn't want her to feel like she's doing anything wrong, or that she has to stress to meet my standards, and in response she said that she doesn't feel that way, and that she finds me worth trying to make it work. I can't ignore that, but I'm still not certain of what I want, even beyond just her.

I'm sorry if this is disorganized, or lacking info, but I'm just a little bit lost and want some other perspectives to help me make sense of this. I'm taking a couple of days apart to collect myself.