i’ve been with my bf for 3 years now, and he’s always been a genuinely sweet, caring guy. we’ve had a solid relationship with mutual respect, but recently he’s been watching these red pill videos and listening to podcasts from people in that community. it’s been really weird to see how he’s slowly adopting their mindset, and honestly, it’s freaking me out a bit.

he used to be all about equality and understanding, but now he’s constantly talking about how men should be “alpha,” how women need to be put in their place, and how being a "nice guy" is why men get disrespected. at first, i thought it was just a phase or he was trying to explore new ideas, but it’s starting to affect how he treats me. he’s been more dismissive of my opinions, and sometimes he even calls me "emotional" or "irrational" if i disagree with him. it's not the person i fell in love with, and i'm feeling unsure about where this is going.

i’ve tried talking to him about it, but he says i’m being too sensitive and that i don’t understand how men feel. i’m really struggling to understand why he’s getting into this stuff, and i don’t know how to handle it. has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? how did you handle it, and did it get better? i really care about him, but i’m starting to feel like i’m losing the person i used to know.

tldr: my bf of 3 years is getting deep into the red pill community, and it’s changing the way he sees relationships and treats me. feeling confused and looking for advice on how to navigate this.