Hi All, We are both mid 30s and have been dating for 3 years. He is a very nice person and caring. We both work well together as a team. Both are respectful and not toxic, great families etc.

Unfortunately, physically I'm longer attractive to him. There are a few reasons which dont need to be specified and are ultimately shallow but are a deal breaker for me. I thought they could be worked through from my end, i have been to therapy, i told the therapist the specifics and unfortunately it seems to be something which consumes to much of my mind when he is around.

I know relationships take work, i know the spark comes and go, i know the above is shallow.

Has anyone been in the position before, how did you get through it? Did you end it and regret it?

Would love some wise words. Thanks.

And yes before any inexperienced people want to comment. Yes I can do him a favor and end it as he is better of without me etc. That is not what im after. Thanks.