So my girlfriend had a fwb situation with a guy for about two years before meeting me. We’re in a committed romantic relationship about 5 months. She stopped seeing him before we met but occasionally he texts her and asks if she’s seeing anyone and if she wants to get together.

Shes told me she never had feelings for him, he’s overweight, smelly, bad at sex, not cool, etc… but she kept seeing him nonetheless. Anyway a couple weeks ago she got another “unwanted” message from him asking if she’s still in a relationship and saying he’d be in town. She asked my advice and I told her that instead of again saying she’s seeing somebody and can’t meet up that she say she isn’t interested in ever seeing him again (she claims that she isn’t).

Well the other day while she was showing me a video on her phone a message from him popped up saying he’d be in town this weekend and asking if she wants to meet up. She instantly dismissed it and strangely quickly asked me what she wants me to do. I said I don’t care and it’s up to her. I already gave her my advice and she didn’t take it so at this point it’s up to her, it’s not really any of my business but I feel upset about it.

Is it weird that she hasn’t given this guy closure? I feel like she’s keeping him on the back burner and waiting for me to dump her so she can go back to him. I have given her zero indication that I want to, she’s just very insecure. She previously said she’s not interested in him, but I wonder if I can trust her.

What is your advice? She is also a major snap chat person and I think she also talks to him on there.