I love this woman and her kids with every fiber I have but I believe we are having some deeper problems and she's afraid to leave because of the stability I provide. We live in different states which isn't a problem. It's at most 1 hr away in heavy traffic. I travel a lot for work, commercial construction. I lay brick, block, stone and pour concrete. I'm always gone Monday thru Friday and spend the entire weekend heath her, the kids, and her family. I barely see my family anymore which is fine because her and those kids are my new family. I do feel like it's all one sided though. Usually every weekend we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Now I'm lucky if I get a long kiss no tongue 3 times a weekend. It bothers me we aren't as intimate and I know that shows. Havent had sex in months I've mentioned I need more intimacy because I don't feel as close or like she wants me. she gets my entire paycheck every week minus 150 for food while I'm out of town. I make 27 an hour so my paycheck is always great. I get 2 vacations a year and we go where she wants. Every weekend I let her decide where to go because we can't find sitters for date night and I don't care where we are long as I'm with her. When I arrive Friday night I feel like she's annoyed and happier when I leave. On weekends she usually sleeps until 1 or 2pm but she's always really busy with the kids and all their extracurriculars. Football, dance, band, softball, basketball and track n field. I know she's always with the kids so I et her sleep. I work daylight to dark so I'm always tired after 10pm. I make sure she doesn't have to cook on weekends and fix anything that needs it. I've drove across 2 states to fix a clogged septic. I am not a deadbeat but definitely a workaholic. I am as involved as possible with the kids. I can't lose her and the kids they have became what matters most. If you think this in my head lmk, if you think there's something more I can do lmk. If this is nothing but red flags lmk. The kids are not my biological so I have 0 rights as a Dad.