Due to a real physical problem, caused by something severe, she has lost interest or maybe better said, she has turned off her sexual self. Other than that she is a healthy woman.

She has now devoted her life to our families, house decorating, gardening, and friends, but even at our age, our friends do have active sex lives, or so I am told.

We have talked about it and she gets very distressed so i have refrained from doing that, as i don’t want to make her unhappy.

i have lost 2 previous wives to cancer, so this whole scenario brings up a great deal of sadness for me and trauma.

I began seeing a therapist some time ago, a female. My wife has expressed no desire to go, so i have been going myself, so recently my therapist told me that this is a very sad situation for both of us, but that I am not getting any younger, find some way to create physical intimacy before its too late.

I haven’t been able to pull the trigger on doing that, but i have explored and talked about it and it would be pretty easy for me as i can afford it.

So i would like some feedback on what you would do in my situation?

i have read a lot here about relationships and have found no real insight.

So what would you do?