Is my (24F) relationship with my boyfriend (30M) over or just in a ‘rough patch’?

I’ve (24F) been with my bf (30M) for just over 3 years now. There are so many small factors in our relationship that I don’t want to ramble about but basically we moved in together this year, and were previously semi-long distance, a few hours away from each other. Since the move, I feel like I’ve been getting more and more doubtful, frustrated, and feeling resentment growing within me. This is mostly because at least from my perspective, I deal with 70% of the relationship load, if not more. I plan and cook meals, have to plan and assign chores/tasks or else he won’t do them (if I ask he says, well what do you want me to do? Meaning I’m still doing half the task🙃) and he spends so much time sleeping and gaming. I’m a homebody and also like to play games so at first I never thought it would be a problem but I think I expected that we’d have a more similar mindset in regards to improving ourselves, our habits, and our lives (not sleeping so late, having a morning routine, cleaning our space together, working out, etc.) and that hasn’t really happened. More and more I’ve been feeling like his mom. He expects me to get up every morning and cook breakfast even if I worked late the night before or just want to sleep. Plus, he doesn’t like what I want so I have to make something separate just for him. And I’ve been doing the dishes too… I have started to express some frustrations and I think it’s apparent in my behavior but he just gets angry and defensive. Denies what I say (if I say he doesn’t help/clean, he says he does and then it’s basically just a statement of he said she said) I hate confrontation so it’s already hard, but everyone I’ve talked to says if I want this to work, I need to give him clear demands/expectations and tell him these things are dealbreakers for me. Problem is, I’m at the point I’m not even sure I want it to work. I don’t even know what to “demand”. In my mind, these things shouldn’t have to be taught or trained. They should be a given because you care about yourself and/or because you want to do something nice for your partner. I’m still young and have only had two serious boyfriends, and am wondering if I’m wasting time settling for something I’m not happy with and should be out there working on myself and looking for someone better. On the flip side, we’ve been together 3 years and I feel like I should be fighting/trying to fix things, and wondering if my head was somehow in the clouds for 3 years and I’m just now noticing these things or if my expectations are just unrealistic. This is my first time living with a partner so I’m really not sure.

TLDR; my bf of 3 years moved in and I’ve been feeling like a mother, under appreciated, and like our relationship dynamic has changed significantly. I’m wondering if I should try and fight/save the relationship or if this is the moment where I know I’m supposed to leave…