**TL;DR: I've discussed my discomfort with my LDR boyfriend about him attending bars, let alone a strip club. He admitted to going to a bar but omitted going to a strip club. I found this out and confronted him. He admitted to it and claimed he was unaware that strip clubs are a no for me. He apologized and told me he wouldn't do it again.

I [23/F] am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend [23/M]. I've discovered that I'm really insecure & have had a discussion with him regarding how I feel uncomfortable with him going to bars because of the potential for him to be exposed to tempting situations. I can almost swear I recall telling him that clubs are a no for me however. We talked about this and his point of view is different. He says as long as we trust each other neither of us should be concerned about going to bars or clubs. I've been trying my hardest to understand his perspective on this and it's been difficult. But none the less I've been to reassure myself by relying on our trust.

However, he tells when he plans on going to bars with his friends & will occasionally text me throughout the night when he goes to bars.

Last weekend he went on a trip. On Friday he told me he was going out with his friends to New Orleans to hit up some bars and him & his friends also booked an AirBNB together. He facetimed me in the AirBNB before him & his friends headed out to the bars. He never mentioned to me him and his friends would be going to a strip club. Later throughout that night he texted me occasionally. I asked if he was clear for a call at one point & he said yes & called me. Our conversation was very brupt & lasted only about a couple of minutes.

Fast forward to this weekend I flew out & visited him. We were having a night drive & decided to take a trip to Target. He handed me his phone so I could look up the directions. In his search history, I noticed he had searched strip clubs while he was in New Orleans. It bothered me all night.

The next morning I sat down with him and confronted him about it. I asked him if he had gone to a strip club when he was in New Orleans. He told me yes & explained how he didn't want to but his friends really wanted to go so he decided to go. He continued to explain how it was supposedly a bad time, therefore him and his friends didn't stay very long. I reminded him that we discussed in the past that I don't want him going to clubs. He told me he didn't think it was a big deal if we trust each other. He also claimed he didn't recall that I mentioned clubs are a dealbreaker for me in the past. I asked him why he ommitted this. He told me he knows how territorial I am and knew if he told me it would lead to an argument. I told him I felt disrespected & lost some of my trust in him. He apologized. I asked him if he would ever go to a club again. He didn't give me a definitive no answer. So I asked him to clarify. He said he would never go to a club again unless there was a rare situation where I specifically gave him permission.

I accepted his apology but it's still been causing me to dwell. I don't know how to feel about this