So me and my girlfriend are fighting right now. Basically what happened is:

She was supposed to visit her family but her step dad made her wait until later at night, around 20h20 or so. So I decided that she come over to me instead because we always spend our weekends together. But it was late now, and there were no more trains to catch. I called her to ask her and she informed me of this, but the call got cut off before I could let her know I would get her an Uber back to her place, so I had to recharge before placing another call.

However, the closest convenience store to me was about 10 to 15 minutes away from me, and I had to run over there before I could call again. 10 minutes later I call her to ask her if she's still at the station to which she replies she caught a taxi back using her own money. This money is reserved for her commute to work btw. I explained to her that I ran as fast as I could to get a recharge, but she was not having any of it.

She tells me I'm horrible, left her stranded and I'm making her use more of her money and that I'm like her family (horrible abusive family). She mentions I make her spend her money coming to be and she is so mad that my first instinct was to send her back to her apartment instead of getting her an Uber to my place. It was late at night, around 21h30 at the time, Uber drivers tend to kill girls travelling on their own, and it's a frequent thing.

I explained to her my reasoning and that we could always see each other tomorrow but she is not listening to me at all. She was being rude and I decided to just log off and give her time to calm down (I told her this) but moments later, I noticed that she's now saved my number as "my abuser" in her phone. This made me so angry!! Additionally, I had borrowed her a set of earphones that she threw away in her fit of rage because of this situation. I was willing to over look this, but after seeing how she saved my contact, I got so angry at her and the fight has now escalated.

She has had lots of trauma growing up, and her mom is horrible. So, this is important to note. We have had physical fights (her attacking me defending), she's suicidal too. Her mom, physically attacks her step dad (she's all around abusive even to her kids) and I said to her that she was like her mom, she has a deep insecurity about this. She says I lack empathy, but when I am being kind to her she seems to always over play her hand and take advantage by digging more and more into me (calling me names and being mean). So I asked her, why does she not extend empathy towards her mom but expect it from me? Her mom had trauma too, and she hates her mom because she abused her. I further asked her wh of all the men who abuse their wives and claim they had traumatic childhoods, does she not extend empathy to them too.

I feel like she uses her trauma to get away with things, instead of apologising for my earphones she was telling me how hard her week was that I know that she can't handle anger well and that after all she's been through I'm putting her through more. The situation was out of my hands!

Anyway, I would like some insight on this please, because she says I emotionally abuse her. She says me saying she's like her mom and asking her the questions above is abusive. I genuinely think they're exactly alike. This is exactly how her mom would react too.

On mobile and typing in a hurry, forgive any mistakes, formatting or otherwise please.