My fiancée was ordered to complete a six month rehab program by the court for violating his probation. He has struggled with his addiction for four out of the six years we have been together so I was 100% in support of this treatment. We have two children under the age of three and I was more than willing to raise them on my own until he came home. This whole time he has been obsessed with the idea that I’m cheating on him. I have no reason to lie. I’m not. I’ve told him over and over I’m not but he still won’t let it go. I few weeks ago I told him it seems like we think and feel the same on a lot of things. Our personalities (or so I thought) are very similar accept I just don’t have an addictive one. So yesterday he sends me this letter and this is the part that shocked me “I think since you don’t have me around that you could be cheating on me. Maybe not physically but emotionally, I know this because even you said we think and feel the same. If you were in my shoes and I was in yours don’t tell me I wouldn’t be talking to other girls.” Um… okay I was wrong, we aren’t the same. This totally blindsided me and now I don’t know what to do. If he was just my boyfriend and we didn’t have two children I would just never speak to him again. But he’s not, and I love him. And I thought he loved me but now I don’t know anymore. I would have never ever expected him to say this. So now I’m waiting for our once a day phone call to confront him about it.