Im 24/F. not sure about you, but once someone lies to me, I’m on high alert. If it’s just once I’ll let it go. Twice, whatever… But 3 times or more, even less tbh. I start to get paranoid that they are ALWAYS lying to me. Being with him M/27 for 2 years It doesn’t help that I catch them in lies still, mostly small lies that are pointless. but then it just becomes an annoying game of “what’s he lying about now” and “that can’t be the truth”. Usually I’m right. I can see right through him. It’s been two years, why do you still think you can “outsmart” or treat me like I’m dumb and going to believe everything you say?

This man has been lying to me for two years, small and big things. We’ve had good patches. And we have them, I love him. And our relationship isn’t bad. It just isn’t what I were it to be right now. We need some work. And we recently went through something traumatic for both of us.

But When he’s lying, over big or small things I almost feel crazy! And then he flips it around on me saying I’m being aggressive for asking him a question because he thinks I think he’s lying. he’s done it to himself. If he hadn’t lied so much we wouldn’t be in this vicious cycle. He says he’s going to change 🚨AND HE HAS BEEN BETTER🚨 But I still can’t shake the feeling of always being lied to. And I know I can’t do this forever. How do I stop getting triggered even if he’s telling the truth? I’m on high alert, And for who knows how long. how do we get passed this?