Me: 22F Him: 24M. I’ve been through 4 years of being sexually attached to my ex. The last 2 years we have been on and off friends with benefits but I have too many emotions tied to him.

I doubt I could just have sex with him. I would have to be very strict and have absolutely no contact with him outside of sex. And I’m not even sure that would work. And even then there would still be sore feelings after one of us eventually moved on.

We took a break from each other a few days ago and something that’s reoccurring for me is dreams of him. I dream about us making up, cuddling, etc but what sucks is I dream about us having sex and participating in a mutual kink. I hope this isn’t tmi but it makes me extremely horny and frustrated because I don’t have anyone else to just go fuck around with. I could easily find someone but I’m still not over my ex and really would rather be with him.

It’s been a rollercoaster trying to move on and get over him. It doesn’t help that we have a mutual kink. I feel like it ties us together. And I always think about him and finish thinking about him. What are ways I can practice getting over him sexually? Obviously I have to get over him emotionally as well but sexually has been a struggle.