I M31) have had strong feelings for someone who only very recently got divorced. We’ve known each other for over a year and met through work. However, she was married at the time and I had just broken up with a LTR from then ex-fiancé, plus we lived states away and she’s in my home state. We clicked immediately and nothing came from it other than friendly banter. We had both previously mentioned how strange it was to have clicked so well and that there was a connection unlike anything else. I was wanting to respect her space and her relationship over the year that we’ve known each other and we kept in contact consistently through sending memes, gossiping about former co-workers, etc.

After my breakup with my fiancé, I was in no shape or form to start something new again or to pursue anything. However, I’m ready. I’ve gotten over the heartbreak. Work forced me to move back home to the same state as her and we’re only a few hours away. She recently got divorced and naturally since then (as anyone would) she hasn’t been communicative, not as friendly, and we haven’t had the same level of banter. Which I totally get, I was feeling exactly the same as her when I was heartbroken.

I really want to be there for her and by her side (from afar) as much as I can and if she’ll let me. I’ve been trying to drum up the courage to let her know how I feel but my friends say to let it be for now. I’ve a feeling that she knows I like her and we know there’s a connection that just works. I’m not getting a feeling that she feels the same though. I’m torn as to what I should do…do I let her know? Or just go slow and let her heal?

If I were to tell her I wouldn’t force anything and that I would wait as long as it takes…that’s how much I like her.

Any advice appreciated.